Do you ever.....

feel like there is so much more you should be doing. Like you should be making some money somehow. I want so bad to help with the bills but don't really know how.I have very little training or experience so I can't get a job that would make enough to cover child care and make even alittle extra. DH is so stressed and I can't seem to do anything to help. Does anyone else feel this way? If so how do you handle it?

When I feel like that, I try to help make dh's home life as stress free as possible. KWIM?

Since I can't do it financially, I try to provide a home environment that is peaceful and organized. I should really keep this up when he isn't stressed. :lol Our arrangement wouldn't work for everyone, but it does for us. Basically, if he is really under pressure from work, I shield him from all household/kid related.

:yeah When I feel like that, I try to help make dh's home life as stress free as possible. KWIM?

Since I can't do it financially, I try to provide a home environment that is peaceful and organized. I should really keep this up when he isn't stressed. :lol Our arrangement wouldn't work for everyone, but it does for us. Basically, if he is really under pressure from work, I shield him from all household/kid related. II have been lacking in this department though and I feel bad about it. I've been letting the house slide more than I should. Better get crackin'. hehe!

YES! all the time!
Especially since I was a single mom for 15 years and was used to being "head of household" -- and made pretty darn good money when we got married...
Really tough now since we're supporting 2 households on student loans. Ugh. Trying to get my wahm business going again, but it's tough with a toddler and pregnant, and no help!

My dh is really great about this tho - he doesn't want me to work, as he feels strongly that our children/family come first... then the house, of course! ;) I'm really blessed in that area... but I still feel likea moocher!

When I feel like that, I try to help make dh's home life as stress free as possible. KWIM?

Since I can't do it financially, I try to provide a home environment that is peaceful and organized. I should really keep this up when he isn't stressed. :lol Our arrangement wouldn't work for everyone, but it does for us. Basically, if he is really under pressure from work, I shield him from all household/kid related. I

:yeah That's exactly what we do. I don't even make him help clean up the dishes after I've cooked on days where he's been up working since 4am.

I also remind myself that this isn't forever....and I never discount my job or role here at home.

I agree with everything you ladies have said. I also do the financial part of our business, so I feel like I'm contributing in that way. But, just think about all the ways that you help him an feel good about that.

I think supporting your dh with some extra attention is great; it really seems to help mine to relax.

I was concerned about this very thing one day when my sister-in-law called me and told me I could earn some extra money working from home with Arbonne. She fully understood my situation...3 kids, a 5, 4 and 1 year old and practically no start-up to speak of, no time to do it, absolutely no time or inclination to do parties...but she asked if she could explain it anyway. It has given me such a sense of accomplishment to be involved in my own business and to have hope for our financial future again.

Hope I didn't go on too much; I just know exactly where you are coming from.

I feel this way a lot. I am blessed to have a husband that tells me every time I feel this way that I am doing the most important "job" in the world by staying home and raising our daughter. Being a stay at home mom and doing all the cooking and cleaning is a full time job, it just doesn't pay anything. I always try to keep in mind that my husband and I are a team and we are both contributing whatever and however we can to benefit our family.

I feel this way a lot. I am blessed to have a husband that tells me every time I feel this way that I am doing the most important "job" in the world by staying home and raising our daughter. Being a stay at home mom and doing all the cooking and cleaning is a full time job, it just doesn't pay anything. I always try to keep in mind that my husband and I are a team and we are both contributing whatever and however we can to benefit our family.

:yeah

... but unfortunately, I still feel driven to provide at least some sort of financial contribution... even a small one... :(

I feel very good about what I am doing for the family. I DO miss having my own money though. I started an online business for a bit but it was really hard to manage my little one and my business at the same time. But now that he is a bit older I might try my hand at it again.

Funny thing is I think my friends are the ones with the real issue about my being a sahm LOL I have two that call me on a regular basis to give me ideas and leads on jobs :lol At first it really irked me but now I just laugh at them :lol It really gives my husband a chuckle. He is always asking me when they call, Did they find that perfect job for you yet! :lol