"I saw something that would be perfect for you"

I know people mean well but sometimes their logic seems to be off. My cousin David called about a week ago to let me know he saw a sign where a school was looking for tutors. He said he thought it would be a great job for me. I told him that I enjoy staying home and he said.. "Yeah but you could do this part time".

Then last night my other cousin (different side of the family) Tammy called. She wants to be a SAHM but her Dh doesn't make enough to support them. She wants "us" to start a business. She had already worked out a schedule where we would rotate..one day she would be at the shop and I would watch the kids and the next day I would work and she would watch the kids. I told her I had no desire to run a business other than Dh's and I really only do that because he needs me too. We will eventually hire someone to *run the office*.

Ugh! All to say..why do people assume if you are a SAHM you must be looking for work?!

I think a lot of people take for granted how much work is involved in being the CEO of a household.

I think a lot of people take for granted how much work is involved in being the CEO of a household.

Very true. :clap Congrats on having the ablity to put all your efforts in being the CEO of the household. :thumbup

I think a lot of people take for granted how much work is involved in being the CEO of a household.
I agree. It's not like we're sitting around waiting for something to do!

Ugh! All to say..why do people assume if you are a SAHM you must be looking for work?!

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I can totally relate! I had a neighbor in Chicago who worked outside the home, while myself and our other neighbor were SAHMs. She was always making snide little comments and it really irked me! So sorry!!!

Yep! I hear you! Emma isn't even in school yet (one more year) and some of my family is already saying things to me about working! If I hear one more time that being a cafeteria lady would be an "IDEAL" job for me, I'm going to barf!!!

I know for me, I'd like to get out of the house sometimes. Cooped up in the house with 3 kiddos all summer liked to have killed me. And maybe that's what these people are thinking too. Everyone needs to get out every once in a while, without the kids. We all say so all the time, MNO anyone?! I dont interpret the scenarios mentioned as people thinking you needs a job, just something to get you out of mommy mode for a minute or two. Look at it that way, positively. :-) That, or they're just all jealous! lol

I think a lot of people take for granted how much work is involved in being the CEO of a household.

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That is why I never let someone call me a SAHM! I do NOT just stay at home, I am a FULL TIME MOM! My job is the kids so I don't need another one! Thank goodness my husband feels the same and he will correct them if he is around, he is fully aware that my job is much harder than his!

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my MIL did that for the first 6 months after alice was born. she hated being a SAHM so i think she think everyone does.

I get "suggestions" from family all the time. I would like to do a little part time work (personal training) but it is challenging to find a situation that fits. Unfortunately, my family thinks they no better and constantly tell me that I am just "looking for excuses".:rolleyes

I think a lot of people take for granted how much work is involved in being the CEO of a household.
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My mom is always saying "Well, since you have so much time on your hands..." Huh? What time? I feel busier now than I did when I had a full time job where I worked 65 hours a week. It's so irritating when people act like that. Or like you're needing a job.. THIS is our job!!

I got this the other day from my FIL...there is this place hiring...OH OK...did I say I was looking?? UGH..I mean I may HAVE to soon...but right now NOPE!

Now that my youngest is approaching 3, my family has started saying things like "isn't Paige old enough for preschool?" and "childcare wouldn't be much now, would it, with two in school all day?"

And I actually do have a part time job on weekends already!

I finally had to tell one sister that since I wasn't asking her to support me, I couldn't understand why she should care if I worked or not.

I hear ya! It's like the only reason we are at home is because we are "in between" jobs or something! The other day my mom asked me if I was being my "authentic" (thanks Oprah!) self by staying at home since I loved my career so much--I think she thought I was a real freak when I told her everything I did pre-kids was just to fill my time until I got to be a mom!

Ugh...what is it with family members?
My MIL IS CONSTANTLY asking me "SO, are you planning on going back to work? Ya know, I stayed home with my kids when they were young but went back to work when they went back to school". I'm thinking....well, I can't tell you on here wha I was thinking.
But EXCUSE ME I AM working.

At one point my DH mentioned to her that I was really tired and stressed (we had a lot going on) and my MIL goes "STRESSED? From what? She doesn't work."

UNBEFREAKINLIEVABLE!

Yeah, since both of our kids are in school, my dh gets comments like "What does she do all day?" He always answers "Whatever she wants!" He tells people that my job is to take care of the house and raise children. If I "want" to work I can, but I do not ever have to work.
People also don't consider that both of our children are heavy into sports. Carting them around to all of their practices, games, training appointments, and to the gym is a full-time job in and of itself.

What time? I feel busier now than I did when I had a full time job where I worked 65 hours a week.

:yeah I can so relate...and i only have one kid! People just dont understand what we really do.

My MIL wants me to put Houston in preschool and go back to work also. UM...what about Max???? I stay plenty busy cleaning, feeding, bathing, shopping and playing with the boys!! And am happy to do it. I want to be home with them as long as possible.

How could I miss out on him learning something new that I taught him vs. him learning it from somewhere else. Let's face it by 3rd grade he will be learning stuff that I can't help him with, so I want to be the "hereo" as long as possible!!!

I agree. It's not like we're sitting around waiting for something to do!
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....my MIL goes "STRESSED? From what? She doesn't work."

Those are fightin' words!!!:boxing

:yeah I would have had a cow!