RyliesMomma
01-29-2006 Sunday, 07:33 AM
Wow am I ready to just run away! As most of you know I live with my parents. I moved back in with them a month before my due date b/c I was put on strict bed rest. It was only supposed to be temporary until Rylie was 2-3 months old so they could help me out during the first couple of months. Well now almost two years later we are still here! Mainly b/c my parents let me go back to school full time and work part time instead of working full time. I appreciate all they do but they are really starting to wear on me. Last night we went to the ER b/c Rylie dislocated her elbow when we were playing and after a long and stressful evening I came home and my mom says "did you learn your lesson on being a better mom" she says stuff like this all the time! My parents are wonderful, but are really tough on me. I now realized it is time to get my butt in gear and get out of here before I really say something I regret (I called her a b*tch last night and felt awful) I just don't have the money and am just about to cry! Positive thoughts please!!!!!!
Tasha
01-29-2006 Sunday, 07:51 AM
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I hope Rylie is feeling better, from what I understand that happens more often than you would think. It's hard to move back home at any age and it's harder when there's a grandchild. Sending positive thoughts your way!!
TeriMomOf4
01-29-2006 Sunday, 07:58 AM
I am really sorry. I totally relate to what you are going through. I moved back in with my parents after being married for four years and out on my own, with my OWN house. All of a sudden, I was living by their rules like I was a teenager again. It was very stressful. I couldn't do things that I would have in my own house...like order a pizza at 9:00 just because I wanted to. It did take moving out to get our relationship back to a "normal" adult one.
Julia
01-29-2006 Sunday, 08:17 AM
Hang in there and focus on the light at the end of the tunnel! Journaling might help release your frustration. Just repeat to yourself "this is temporary. This is temporary. This is temporary". And when your really pissed and mom says something rude - say nothing at all - sometimes that is an equivolent of screaming. Just turn around and GO TO YOUR ROOM! :lol sorry - that's supposed to be humor.
Sounds like a good deal for the moment while you get your degree so you can get out on your own :thumb I think being a single mom, working full-time and going to school sounds like quite a juggling act, but if your REALLY unhappy there, I say jump in and go for it.
RyliesMomma
01-29-2006 Sunday, 10:56 AM
Thanks ladies. I am sorry to be such a downer...it is nice to hear I am not alone and not to be told how horrible of a mother I am! I was not the best kid growing up so I know my mom harbors a lot of resentment from that, but as unhappy as I am now I have to think like a mom. I have to do what is best for my kid and I am financially not able to move out of the house (with cost of living as high as it is). From a previous post I was trying to find housing for a 13 year old, but with counseling I think her family is going to be okay (with some help from CPS monitoring). Teri, it is nice to hear that your parents "babied" you as well. It makes me feel like our situation is more normal. Thanks for all the advice :)
kimbock
01-29-2006 Sunday, 11:02 AM
Girl parents a annoying! LOL
It does happen quiet often. Karsen dislocated her elbow a few months ago. My BIL's drunk girlfriend was playing rough with her. I was freaked out about it and I almost let it loose when the Dr pulled it back into socket the next day.
Chelsea
01-29-2006 Sunday, 05:36 PM
Hey girl! I will be praying for you. I am sorry to hear about Rylie's arm. BUT...just because your kid gets hurt does not mean you are a bad mom. Hang in there girl and let us know if you need anything. Big Hugs!
Briana's mommy
01-29-2006 Sunday, 09:56 PM
I know exactly what you are going through as I am living through it now. Mine was also supposed to be temporary and we have been with them 2 yrs. I am moving into my own place at the end of March so maybe I will see the light at the end of the tunnel but hang in there it does suck!! :)
ambhi
01-30-2006 Monday, 08:24 AM
:hug I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. Hang in there!!
Marci
01-30-2006 Monday, 08:34 AM
I'll be praying for you...hang in there!