So Angry!

I am so mad I am crying!

Today is CD 16..I got a positive O test this afternoon. I told Dh when he got home from work. He tells me he is not in the mood... I figure by bedtime his mood will change...

I am super sweet..make dinner..put the baby to bed early etc.

He said that I am being rude(I can be but I have not been tonight) and he is not going to have sex with me. I say WTF? Tonight is the night. Huge fight insues...

Here I sit..at 11pm..no sex and wondering if we are even on the same page. I thought he wanted this as much as me.. but to refuse sex when I O?? It makes me question it all. WTF is the point?

I just want to kill him and tell god he died!!

I'm so sorry. I would be angry too! That is BS! My dh gets mad at the timed bding too, but I tell him the sooner we get pg, the sooner we can go back to our normal lives. Why can't men just have sex while sleeping like we can? LOL! Hopefully you can maybe at least get some in tomorrow and your eggie will still be there.

i know the feelin sister! When we were getting pg with B, jr says i was a robot... wanted it all the time on certain days which was tough for him being as guys have to be in the mood and all. Hope things pick back up ;)

I know sex on a schedule sucks for me too... I don't think he realizes it is not just bunnies and rainbows for me too. We will see how he is tonight but one thing is for sure..I am not going to go out of my way to be nice to him!

I'm sorry Susie! I think men get that "i have to perform" feeling and then they jsut don't want to. I know that my dh and I are on the same page about TTC. But sometimes he is just not in the mood to *perform*. So for his consideration, I stopped telling him when we *have* to have sex! This might be TMI, but I just seduce him! lol. that way it's enjoyable for both and it's relaxing and not pressured to *perform*. It's helped us so far with the "I'm not in the mood" problem. But I do know how you feel!

:hug sorry to hear! Hang in there!!

why do they act like that? I mean come on.. like we ENJOY keeping track of when it is the right time... and I know we enjoy even LESS trying to get them to participate at that correct time.....

I am sorry, I would be angry too... I have had this happen a few times myself- and I get so upset I yell at him that I just want our one child... (this of course is not true)- I just resent at times that we have to go through the "trying"....

Oh- and one more point- I personally feel that having sex on demand during our O times is the LEAST they could do... I mean, we are the ones that monthly go through a week of hell waiting to see if we get a positive HPT or AF back..... that is much worse than having to "give it up" when you are told to!

:hug I would be mad too.

One month dh even flew home from freaking South America to be in time for my O. Of course, when he gets here, he is too "tired". WHAT?! Not acceptable. I gently (well, maybe not so gently) reminded him that I have made it a point to get in the mood on numerous occasions when he was more interested in sex than I was.

I agree that men do get performance issues, and agree that the seduction method is probably better than my "demanding" sex. Ultimately, we didn't have sex as often during the peak days as I would have liked, but he did get the job done. :p

Hopefully the two of you will be able to talk about how to handle the situation in the future so that everyones emotional (and physical) needs are met.

Last year I had been dx with PCOS, had done the charting and temping, gotten on fetility meds and dh decided he just had to go skiing with the guys...when I was supposed to O! He offered to fly me out there so we could be together when the time was right ;) but that just seemed too weird. Doesn't matter in the end I guess, we did it 4 days before I O'd and I still got my BFP that month!

The tests I've taken say you O anywhere from 24-48hrs after a + (depending on the test) so maybe there's still hope for this month. If it doesn't work, I wouldn't even tell him when you're gonna O next month...when the time is right...just take it! :lol